There’s an insidious plague between us.It’s in meeting rooms, bistros, parks, classrooms, wellness classes, spas, andliving rooms on each and every continent. It’s the reason for depression andlow self-esteem.Did you ever stop and consider howregularly we are advised to change our appearance? Magazines continually offertips about how to get more fit “in days,” seem slimmer “in asplit second,” and conceal our “imperfections”… without reallyknowing anything about us, much less our appearance.
This is one case ofbody-shaming, and it is all over the place. It has turned into the standard toscrutinize parts of our bodies as some sort of experience to bond with friends– if we as a whole loathe our bodies; it by one means or another makes us feelassociated and joined together. Messages from the media and from each otherfrequently suggest that we need to change, that we ought to think about lookingslimmer, littler, and tanner. The issue isn’t the food. The issue is thatwe’ve been shown that what we look like is more essential than our identity oreven what we do. What’s more is that this is an issue inschool as well. Every day we have people roaming around saying things like”Don’t sit down, you’ll break the chair” or “Could you have worn a shirt thatwasn’t so tight?”.
These are small examples of body shaming in our very owninstitution. An institution where instead of achieving excellence, we runaround a large individual and then say that we have run all around the world.Is that what we’ve come to? Shaming our fellow family members over the type ofbody they have? Using remarks such as “I should just put you in the Bio Lab,you’d do well as a skeleton there” doesn’t motivate someone to change the waythey look, it instead discourages them and makes them feel bad about theirchoices and their body. In the future, this may lead to anxiety, chronicdepression and may lead to a feeling of uselessness. Worse, it omits context: that specificindividuals are made to feel a particular sort of shame for their particularsorts of bodies.
That fat bodies, and debilitated bodies, and trans bodies, andbrown and black bodies are stigmatized and criticized at a more noteworthyextent than thin white bodies. That specific bodies are inscribed with a sortof aberrance that rouses contempt or malice. That specific sorts of bodies facea lethal sort of brutality on the off chance that they don’t mix in with thecrowd around them. When we focus “body shaming” as an issue, beauty isthe right we’re battling for. For those of you who think beauty omits from theway you look, don’t. True beauty truly comes from the person rather than theway that person looks. We think we are imperfect since we lookdifferent.
We attempt to fit into an outlandish shape. Quit trying. Also, toyou, dear reader, please stop mentally dismantling yourself.
Look in the mirrorand commend your uniqueness. You are wonderful and enough, just the way youare. Be who you truly are.