The kinship dialectsare utilized by both English and Chinese individuals, however the terms offamily kinship are utilized for relatives in English. While with regards toChinese dialect, they are utilized for relatives, as well as for non-relatives.Also, the Asian kinship terms are way complex than the ones used by the Englishpeople. For instance, in Chinese, “da bo” (eldest brother of father), “er jie”(second elder sister), “san ge” (third elder brother) are often used, while inEnglish, “sister”, “uncle”, “grandma” are used alone or even before their firstnames (Yin, 2009). According to Tillit& Bruder (1993, p.
15), in the case of an American, it islikely to switch from a formal address to an informal one, but the superior ineither position or age has to be the one to give permission to this. Greetings. According to Marsih(2010), in various cultures, questions like “how are you”, “were are yougoing”, “have you eaten”, and so many others can and are commonly used to greetpeople, but these questions are not necessarily real questions as the answers to them areconsidered to be ritualistic. It is called ritualistic because for instancesomeone asks how you are doing, you do not have to share all your feelings tohim/her. A simple “I am fine” is all that is needed, an a little small talk. Inmost Western or English speaking countries, talking about politics or theweather is considered as small talk.
The way people greetand their consideration of small talks may be different in each language. For example, in some Asian countries likeChina and Indonesia, the expression “where are you going” is considered as away of greeting, but a German or most Westerners may see this as being overlycurious (Mulyana 2004, p. 132). Acceptance/ refusal of offers. This also differs invarious cultures and countries. MostEuropean or Westerners would accept or refuse an offer with a “yes/no, thankyou”, whereas some Asian countries like Indonesia are likely to say somethingrather than yes/no since they find it difficult to use a direct response likethe Westerners. Whereas in Chinese, it is their culture for a guest to refusean offer for at least thrice before accepting it just to be seen as polite, andif they happen to be the host, they would make an offer severally just to sureif the guest really doesn’t want what is been offered (Mulyana, 2004, p.
133-134).It could be concluded from the above that theChinese see it as being impolite or greedy if they accept an offer atonce. Similarly, in India, Taiwan andsome parts of the Arabic-speaking countries, it is seen as impolite tohurriedly accept when food is offered (Holmes 2001, p. 276).Reprimand. To reprimand simplymeans to caution someone, or to call them to order. This, just like theprevious sub-headings also differs in various cultures.
In Thailand andprobably some other Asia countries, it is considered rude and impolite tocaution or reprimand a person publicly as it leads to face loss, whereas it isaccepted in some Western countries like Germany. Talking about business. Preferable times tohave a business meeting are different in most cultures. The British people donot mind talking about their business deals while having lunch or having adrink, whereas the Japanese consider lunch to be a time for resting, and forthis would rather not have any business meetings during this time. The Germansprefer to have business meetings and talks just before dinner, whereas theFrench would rather be well fed before any talks of business and meetings(Marsih, 2010).Western business people are often very relaxed while disagreeingwith each other because they believe that it is possible for them to quicklyresolve whatever the problem may be simply by appealing to principles. It istherefore, it is alright to criticise each other if they believe that they havethe ability and accurate reasons for it.
The other party is however likely topush down whatever pride that they have got and listen. For the Westerners areto subdue their emotions, and abstract principles in this way, they need tobelieve in the legitimacy of these principles. However, Chinese people, do not.
They believe that in order to get along with each other, they must continueto sustain peace by regarding the feelings and pride of their partners, as wellas honouring their superiors.