I feel that these skills play a crucial role in my life due to my own personal journey as a better person both physically and spiritually. As I have been reading Emotional Intelligence (D. Goleman, 1995), I find myself identifying with the sort of awareness and insights that are present and I can honestly say that I have been accused my whole life of being to emotional or deemed the sensitive one. I had a rough upbringing and I was very negative in my social life.Distant, angry but this somehow managed to help me view things differently as I matured and came into my own as a responsible adult. I was not aware that this other natural instinct was looked at as a viable form of intellect. It always bothered me that feelings were not viewed as evidence of intellectual power.
But then why do our emotions drive us to make so many decisions that produce both positive and negative outcomes. These are still looked at as good or bad intellectual choices.Thinking with both the head and the heart is not always how some individuals interpret their actions. Choosing to interpret things rationally without the awareness of emotional instinct telling us to make a decision is often overlooked because we inherently know what to do because feeling happens so quickly, and the thought is ingrained so it is the first response. Thus the intellect taking over the emotional reasoning. (queendom. com) Emotional intelligence is defined as our inherent will to control our impulses such as motivation, empathy, and positive social interaction.
Utilizing the concepts of emotional intelligence, being self-aware, controlling our impulses, and motivation, it is my understanding that I already have been practicing these concepts just through my own discoveries with self realization and now thanks to the readings I have gained better understanding of this information. Ex; It has always been easy for me to deal with conflicted situations calmly and mostly without upsetting the protagonists further. A former place of employment had a difficult supervisor and they were constantly angry and demeaning to certain employees.
But no matter how much he vented his frustrations out on others, I would not be offended. I refused to feel overpowered with such negativity. And he came to respect me and laugh about things with me. The other employee’s were confused as to how I differentiated myself and with what attitude. I always observed and held on to a moral belief that people are sometimes angry, and maybe they’ll direct it in others undeserving direction. And people take offense because it causes a negative feeling in them, therefore reciprocating the negative energies back at the projector.But I stood my ground, never expressed discontent, and emitted confidence in the fact that no matter what they were angry about, it had nothing to do with me personally. Instead, I befriended them and understood their plights.
All due to my observant, emotional outlook and understanding of peoples needs. This way of thinking and the application of this sort of thinking has greatly benefitted my health and wellness overall. Daniel Gilberts Stumbling on Happiness introduces a powerful example that looks deeper into the human conditions that make us the dominant species.Humans are all equipped with the means to predict or assume the outcome of any present event or events that have not yet transpired. People are in a constant state of worry or reactive planning to insure overall happiness. This constant stream of imaginary outcomes is the prime motivation that ultimately shapes our lives.
All the time spent preparing ideas and trying to control the outcomes is all just an attempt at achieving overall happiness. (D. Gilbert,2006) I would have to agree with Gilbert’s assessment that we accept the conclusions that have een made up in our minds.A lifetimes worth of functioning and finding satisfying reasons to pursue happiness is a hard habit to break. Actually telling someone that things don’t always turn out as planned is met with a defiant refusal to admitting this notion. There is no diminishment in our personal attempts to stay on track when our minds have been made up. The human desire to be in control is so powerful we refuse to even admit to losing control. This way of thinking can ultimately blind the mind from accepting just ow unprepared we are to see the future we want, or think we do.
Following the Health Status Questionnaire, My general medical history has been pretty clean over the last twenty years. I am a non-smoker; I rarely if ever drink alcohol. There is no history of any heart problems or symptoms pertaining to any heart disease. Some additional health issues I currently face are joint problems, concerns about the safety of exercise and pains in my lower leg due to an injury I sustained in my teenage years. The health risk factors I currently face are pretty minor.
I am only 35 yrs. of age with no prior history of drug and alcohol abuse, and no close relatives who suffered from any major heart problems. I am as active as I can be despite my injury that I am currently awaiting consultation for as to what can be done surgically/therapeutically. My waistline has been pretty consistent throughout my mid to late twenties.
My waistline of 34 to 36 inches has fluctuated depending on my diet and seasonal activities. I currently do not take any medications other then some current inflammatory medications for my swollen ankle.I have never been on any type of prescribed medications for any health or psychiatric reasons.
My physical activities are limited due to my foot problems. I injured my right growth plate as a teenager and it never healed correctly. I did not receive the proper care at the time so it did not heal correctly. (Howley, Franks, 2007) Individual health status . I am awaiting news on the surgical/medical steps that need to be taken in order to provide me relief from the current physical ailments I suffer.
I suffered a growth plate injury as teenager and I have endured almost 20 years of pain and discomfort due to improper treatment.A Growth Plate fracture affects the growth center of a bone that is not yet fully developed which is constantly weakened due to its state of change and development that determines the length and shape of the bone. This weakened state allows the higher probability of damage that can be done to the affected area.
Every long bone in our bodies has a growth plate at the end and in my case the tibia or lower leg and the area connecting to my ankle is where the growth plate fracture took place.The growth plate is not yet hardened so its vulnerability comes from its soft state making it the weakest area on a growing skeleton. American Fitness July/August 2010) What I would want out of an effective exercise leader is an enthusiastic and sincere reason why they have chosen my program to work with and how they can help me in achieving it.
A developing relationship that helps me feel as though this person is there to help me be comfortable and see this through despite the hard work ahead. They will make a sincere effort to help me in attaining my goals of better health and wellness. They would have to understand what I can do physically and adapt my needs to whatever plan they develop.They will determine the risk factors of the work being done while describing the safest elements of achieving the outcome set forth for me.
The goals I have set will benefit my personal health and wellness overall due to the personal fulfillment and needs in wanting to live a healthy lifestyle in a more comfortable manner. After completing surgery as well as physical therapy I will enjoy being more physically active, something I have lacked in recent years. I know that this will benefit me physically as well as emotionally. The ability to run and jump was taken from me and it has been far too long.I admit my health and wellness has definitely subsided over the years due to my physical ailments and it has not been beneficial to me as I age. The CAM practice that is of the most interest to me is the Mind-Body practice. The science of mind body medicine is a process involving the minds ability to will itself into what the individual’s personal goals are that ultimately affect their health through spiritual or mindful actions. Mind-body medicine emphasizes interactions among the brain, the body, the mind and it’s behavior along with the emotional, social, spiritual, xperiential and behavioral factors that would affect one’s overall health.
(Micozzi, 2010) The concept of Mind-body medicine dates back to ancient times.In the western parts of the world the notion that the mind and body were separate started in the renaissance and enlightenment eras. With further technological and scientific study there was an increase in pathological changes and external cures being discovered, furthering the belief that these practices were beneficial to western health care entering into the 20th century. In 2007, The National Health Interview Survey discovered that 19. % of American adults along with 4. 3% of children under 17 had already used at least one Mind-body therapy relating to the CAM methods before the survey was held. Pain was the overall reason for this study along with psychological stressors that lead to a variety of health problems such as heart disease, faulty immune systems, and premature cellular and cognitive aging.
The evidence suggested that Mind-body therapies provided relief to psychological stress. Common therapeutic practices include tai chi, transcendental meditation, yoga, and mindfulness based stress reduction techniques. (report. nih. gov)The reason I feel that this practice is the most beneficial is the fact that the power of the mind is the number one motivating factor in a successful transition in accomplishing any change in one’s personal goals concerning their own health issues. Beginning with Mind- body therapies is the first step in attaining your own understanding of what needs to be done in order to achieve a healthier lifestyle.
What choices will affect you, what therapies work best due to your own personal needs and ultimately taking the next step as to whether or not you would need to start using either one of the other CAM practices.These choices are of upmost importance when deciding to take these steps in our personal quest to find the most comfortable ways in which to live a healthy and effective lifestyle. The CAM practice that I am least interested in is Biologically-based practices. I decided to make a change in my personal life to get healthier and exercise more and it seemed as though every other pill and herbal supplement did not agree with me. I always felt disoriented and flushed. My heart rate would always increase to the point of exhaustion and it would continue to affect me for days.
I realize there is a great deal of supplements ut there claiming to not have dangerous or natural qualities to them but ultimately, through trial and error, I could not trust them.They are also expensive and the variety is just to wide to find the right ones without a lot of experimentation. Here are a just a few dangerous additives used in supplemental diet pills. Bitter orange, used for weight loss, allergies, and nasal congestion, but linked with fainting, heart rhythm disorder, heart attack, stroke, and death. Chaparral, used for weight loss, colds, infections, inflammation, cancer, and detoxification, but linked to kidney and liver problems. (www.
webmd. com)The biggest psychological barrier when beginning this type of practice is the fact that when an individual decides to take on this new type of therapy they have so many options pertaining to their individual lifestyle, and the choices are very demanding. There will be a lot of hypothetical experimentation that will ultimately hinder the individual’s emotional needs in finding what is right for them. The economic barrier would be the ability to afford all the different options and finding the right one that meets the individuals standards whether or not they produce the desired results is a financial gamble that some cannot afford to take.