My Life Road Map: Where IVe Been, Where I Am, and Where I’m Going Raylene Herrington PSY 202: Adult Development and Life Assessment Carol Abraham October 28, 2013 I. What was your family like? a. Military family b. Catholic c. Latin – Dominican d. Youngest of 2, sister 7 years older e. Large extended family II. What things do you remember about your childhood? a. Always having what I needed and almost everything I wanted b. Mom worked a lot c. Dance classes d. Church on Sundays, out to eat with family and friends after Ill. What did you want to become when you grew up? a. Dancer/ Choreographer b.
Sea World Animal Trainer c. on TV ‘V. What Jobs have you had in your life? a. Waited tables b. Taught dance c. Nuclear power plant (SONGS) – Help desk, admin, training, performance analyst d. Pharmaceutical company (Genentech, Inc. ) – Training, project manager V. What are your personal, professional, and academic goals? a. Have a baby or babies b. Graduate with a degree I can use My Life Road Map: Where IVe Been, Where I Am, and Where I’m Going Life does not always end up the way you expect. If I was writing this paper five years ago, it would have been a completely different essay.
I had a plan for my life nd my mom always told me, “If you want to hear God laugh, tell him your plan. ” Now I sit nere, renectlng on wnere IITe nas taken me. In tnls essay, I wlll aescrlDe my family, childhood, childhood dreams, and life experiences that have helped me become the person I am today. I will analyze my experiences using theories we are learning in this class. I will also look ahead and discuss my goals for my future and how I will get there. For as far back as I can remember my family has always been close. My mom was Dominican and my dad was from Texas.
They didn’t have any immediate family in the area so they worked hard to build an extended family. My older sister, Jen, and I had so many aunts and uncles around who weren’t blood related. I learned early that you don’t need to be blood to be family. Jen was seven years older than me. She was so responsible and I always looked up to her. As I became a teenager, she gave me “motherly’ advice with a big sister twist. It was like have the best of both worlds. Latino American children learn early the importance of a deep sense of family responsibility.
I learned to value the extended family structure and interaction in their daily lives. Parents often arrange for godparents for the child, demonstrating he value placed on adults other than the immediate parents. These godparents also give advice and correction and should be responsive to the child’s needs. Godparents generally are also legally the child’s guardians, if something where to happen to the parents. My extended family play a huge role in raising me. My dad was a Marine on Camp Pendleton until 1988. I was only 7 when he retired.
I never experienced the military life style of moving around a lot. After he retired, he worked as a software designer. My mom was working in Human Resources at a nuclear power plant, which required her to work long hours. As strict Catholics, we went to church every Sunday and Bible study one day a week. After church, we would go out to eat with friends who shared my parents’ values. My parents worked hard to give my sister and me a life better than the one they had growing up. I had everything I needed and almost everything I wanted. Some may say I was spoiled.
Erik Erikson developed stages of ego development that extended through childhood, adolescence and adulthood. He was trained in psychoanalysis and was highly influenced by Freud, but unlike Freud, Erikson believed that social interaction is very important in the individual’s sychosocial development. (Erikson, 1950) Given the path my life has already taken, my development happened in during Erikson’s Stage 3 and Stage 4. When I was about 3 years old, my parents put in dance classes. I fell in love with it immediately. It was all I ever wanted to do. Dance gave a place to Just be me.
I made lifelong friends and learned life lessons. Dance taught me discipline, drive and focus. While I on the competitive team, my parents would remind me that school came first. During Stage 3, we experience the desire to copy the adults around us. (Erikson, 1950) My sister, Jen, is 7 years older than me. She may not have been an adult, but I looked up to her like an adult. She was in dance, so I wanted to dance too. I happened to love it more than she did and continue with longer than her. My senior year of high school, I had to do a project for what I wanted to do after high school.
I created this whole presentation on being a Sea World animal trainer while continuing to dance. I was going to go to college for Marine Science. I knew that I love performing and being an animal trainer would allow me to use the degree I was going to get and perform at the same time. This is where my life started to take a little left turn. While in college, oun tnat Marlne sclence wasn’t wnat I tnougnt. I wasn’t enjoying It as mucn as I thought I would. In my third year of school, I changed majors to TV production. I still wanted to be able to perform.
I graduated in December of 2004, and started to search for TV station to make my mark. While interviewing at TV stations all over the area, I started to wait tables and teach dance to make ends meet. After about a year of applying to every TV station in the area, I realized that I didn’t have the cut throat personality to be successful in that industry. I felt lost. I moved back in with my parents. I was so depressed. I was 27 years old with no direction or purpose. My mom still worked at the nuclear power plant and heard of a temporary position for the help desk.
She helped me get my resume together and got me an interview. When I got the position, I felt better. I felt like I accomplished something and I began to feel like my life was on track again. I worked at the nuclear power plant for five years. I worked hard and got promotions and learned new things on a daily basis. Recently the plant closed and they laid me off. I now work at pharmaceutical company in the training department doing the same I did at the power plant. I love the work I do, however my degree doesn’t help me. I want a degree that will help in the career I have now.
I feel like my life experiences led me here. Toa career I love and I have worked hard to be good at it. I want a degree that will help me excel in my career. I recently got married. I hope to expand my family with kids of my own. I want my step children and my future children to see that my life didn’t take me down the path I planned or expected. I worked hard get where I am. Although, I had many opportunities that most do not get, I didn’t take them for granted. As reflect on my ife, I see how my upbringing has developed me into the person I am today.
My become the person I am today. My life has taken left turns. I am exactly where I want to be, even if I didn’t take the road I thought I would to get there. It would have never happened without the help from my family, extended family and friends. I have been given the tools and support the reach all my goals – past, present, and future. References Erikson, E. H. (1950). Childhood and Society. New York:Norton Witt, G. A. , & Mossler, R. A. (2010). Adult development and life assessment. San Diego, CA: Bridgepoint Education, Inc.