This movie is a 1989 American romantic comedy film written by Nora Ephron and directed by Rob Reiner. It stars Billy Crystal and Meg Ryan as Harry and Sally. The story follows the title characters from the time they meet just before sharing a cross-country drive, through twelve years or so of chance encounters in New York City. The film raises the question “Can men and women ever just be friends? ” and advances many ideas about love that became household concepts, such as those of the “high-maintenance” girlfriend and the “transitional person”.
During the beginning of the movie Harry Burns and Sally Albright finish college at the University of Chicago and meet when both need someone to share a drive to New York City, where Sally is beginning journalism school and Harry is presumably starting a career; at the time, Harry is dating a friend of Sally’s, Amanda. During their trip to New York they discuss differing ideas about relationships between men and women. Harry has his mind set that “Men and women can’t be friends because the sex part always gets in the way” … even with ones “he finds unattractive”.
Sally disagrees, claiming that men and women can be strictly friends without sex. On the way, at a stop in a diner, Sally is angered when Harry tells her she is attractive; Sally takes it the wrong way and becomes upset. Harry sees this and says “Well I take it back. ” But Sally already has heard it and the damage is done and she even tells Harry he can’t take it back. This shows quite nicely how communication is irreversible. We see with the reaction of Sally that she didn’t take it the right way and at that instant if Harry could have he would have taken it back.
No matter what communication has an impact, and once we say something to another person it becomes part of the relationship. In New York, due to their divergent philosophies, they part on less than friendly terms. Non-verbal adds to verbal communication this is true in almost any case. In the movie Harry and Sally are talking about the night they slept together, Sally gets upset and says “F*ck you! ” then slaps him. This is a classic example of how non-verbal adds to verbal communication. What we see is the fact that Sally thought the verbal communication was not enough to get her oint across so she proceeded with a slap.
We come away from this feeling that she was greatly upset, and the slap illustrated this perfectly. Part I of the Johari Window involves an open area. This is where both people know what’s going on in a relationship, I felt that Harry and Sally both had feelings for each other and it was pretty evident throughout the movie, it just didn’t come into fruition until later. They also learned plenty about one another due to them talking on the phone and hanging out with each other a lot. The second part of the Johari Window is the blind area.
For example, this is where after Sally and Joe broke up and Harry was going through his divorce and they both had feelings for one another but they didn’t do anything about it. This is mostly because they collectively asked the question “can men and women only be friends? ” and decided to find out for themselve’s. Going with the same idea, Part three, or the hidden area, is where you know something about the relationship, but you won’t let others know about it. Harry was definitely not telling Jess about his feelings for Sally whenever he asked.
They all, including Sally’s friend Marie, went all a double blind date to see if they could set their friends up with each other. When things got weird, along with Jess and Marie leaving in a cab together, I felt that it just showed how meant for each other Harry ; Sally were. Part four, unknown, is where nobody knows what’s going on. This goes right along with the other three parts because even though it was obvious to the viewer that these two were secretly in love with each other, neither of them let on until late in the movie. They kept it all bottled up despite the sexual tension.