1. IntroductionIt is likely that anyone might become victim ofdomestic violence. In Vietnam, it has been one of the biggest problem that 58%of women have to suffer recently (Thanh Nien News, 2015, cited in “Domesticviolence in Vietnam”, 2016). “Domestic violence can impact anyone regardless oftheir gender, race, age, culture or religion.” (Kanchiputu & Mwale, 2006 ). Ithas a variety of forms, namely emotional abuse, physical violence and sexual assault. Thismatter is happening due to numerous reasons, but the major cause is lack ofbackground knowledge about domestic aggression .
The problem is worse because ofoutdated views. which means in order to Maintaininghappiness in family, women are tolerant and they stillcontinue to suffer from their husband. Meanwhile, being a bread-maker even, menseem to treat their partner unfair anytime for unreasonable causes. Moreover,children who have unforgettable childhood accidentally become victims ofdomestic violence in their family. To tackle the problem, it seems to be along-term process; however ” it can vary case by case, but we should not keepsilent. Keeping silent is dying” (Beth & Brett, 2013 ). It is necessary for victims to have more chances to raise their voice and be paidmore attention from different groups, both neighborhood and local community.Thus, this essay will provide updated facts, discuss the effects of domesticviolence and suggest efficient ways to protect the victims from this issue.
2.Discussion of findings2.1.
Shocking facts of domestic violence in Vietnam”For many years almost every Vietnamese woman tookit for granted that unconditional service to men is the natural function, arequired sacrifice, and an expression of self-denial, necessary in the role ofwomen in the family” (Le, n.d.). Being interviewee in different discussionforums, a numerous women admit that they are suffering at the hands of theirhusbands due to unreasonable understanding of partners in their daily lives.”Domestic violence is a problem but it is basically a silent problem” (Beth & Brett, 2013).
Why do women choose silence instead of voiceraising? Not allowedto make questions, turn it to a normal sentenceAccording to Dr Nguyen (2016), “some women thinkthat it is karma and they are suffering for something they did in their pastlife”. Traditionally, many women have poorbackground and they are likely accepted that it is their destiny whether theyare beaten by their partners. Moreover, a bigger issue in Vietnam society seemsto be the fear of losing dignity. Many women feeling ashamed about what had happento them intend to hide it from anyone. After marriage, the happy times endquickly because they might give their life to the service of their family,including their husband and children in any circumstances. It seems that womenbeaten up daily for many intolerable years make every effort to endure life asa human punch-bag. To protect victims from violent actions, the governmentenacts law which is called “the Law on Gender Equality and the Law on DomesticViolence Prevention”when???. Source? However,this problem may be difficult to address, for most women do not know theirrights.
In addition, stereo type of Vietnamese women is to stand sacrifices andhardships. They stand both physical and psychological pain after husband’sactions in lieu of accusing their husbands of their violent behaviors in orderto avoid family separation and their children. 2.2.
Effects of domestic violence2.2.1.Women face to domestic abuseWomen who are most at risk for domestic violence havecoped with physical abuse made up by their husbands. It is clearly seen thatthe common feature of any situations between male and female is an imbalance ofcontrol and power. Male representing bread-maker in their family still maintainthinking that their wives do not take care of their families and talk back tothem with their neighbors.
???I thought mother-in-law does, not really husband They constantly use witnessed physical actions whichbring about injuries to victims if the victim run into stiff resistance. Besides,behavior denying essential needs of victims is belonged to physical violence(cited in Ukessays, 2015)not ok source. Men have a tendency to beat their wives and ignorethem when they desire to help them. In some cases, women suffer from sexualabuse, even by theirspouse who looks like sick man ?????.
Women accidently become winebibber or drug addictas drugs seem to help them to forget their painful bodies. They would rather repeatto self-kill by addictions than be slaves of their husbands. Besides, emotionalabuse is likely behavior that threat, intimidation, or the victim’s freedomlimitation. Psychological abuse including conflict action or statement mightaffect to human dignity.
It is surprising that women question themselves inmany times that the abuse is their fault? The abusers have a tendency tomake efforts to keep victims from contacting with their friends and family. Theydeem that the victim could not leave the relationship with them because victimsimpossibly rely on anyone except for them. Isolation contributes the victim’sinternal strength damaging and self-defense ability loosing. In many cases,those women often get several troubles which relates to their emotion.
Theytend to have negative thinking and tackle with their problem by suicide. Unexpectedly,results of numerous studies illustrates that “victims of domestic violence aremore likely to maltreat their children than those who are not abused by theirpartners” (cited onUN 2010). It is worth that they should be received condemnation even though itis probable that they unintentionally make wounds of their children.2.
2.2.Children are influenced by domestic violenceDifferent from Vietnamese women, children areaccidently become consequences of domestic abuse in their families. “41.2%respondents said that domestic violence affects to the abused child to loseinterest in education” (Kanchiputu& Mwale, 2016).
Sometimes, victimized children go to school latebecause they have to do pieces of household work, even they absent from schooldue to verbal aggression andphysical injury. Those youngsters could not concentrate on their studies andoften have flashbacks about the abuse (Jaclyn,n.d.) which is resulted from different misunderstanding of theirparents. Domestic violence also negatively impacts on children’s behavior atschool. It is certain that they use aggression as a way which they might getwhat they want. A perhaps obvious the reason why boys tend to becomemore aggressive is that girl students consider it is normality at school. Inthe majority of cases, children witnessing domestic abuse seem to have lesschance to enjoy their wonderful childhood than others.
They often grow upindependently instead of being taken care by their parents. It is probable thatparents should make good example to their children who might follow, but victimizedkids apparently hide their feeling at home and behave as uneducated people insociety. Children are like “a pressure cooker waiting to let out the stream”(Rebecca, 2011).
Certainly, domestic violence results in negative adjustment ofthe victim who may find it difficult to trust their partners of their marriage inthe future. They are often more aggressive in any circumstances and they treatunfairly to their members of family such as verbal abuse and non-verbal abuse. Inmany cases, the children grow up being affected by the violence, and sometimesthese scars might have a long-term impact on their lives (Jaclyn, n.