1.1. Itall starts the same. You meet an adorable woman and start acting crazytogether. She loves talking with you, she snickers at your jokes, and also youdeduce that she will be most likely into you. But you are worried to take a move.Chance dives by and you are a friend.
1.2. When you share your feelings with that girl,the respond could be as it always is “let’s simply be friends”.
Friendship isgood, but that is not what you want. You think that you deserve a betterrelation with this girl.1.3. Peopleargue that it is impossible to escape friend zone. But relationships specialisthave found a few solutions for that issue. 2.0 Causes of friend-zone:2.
1. Like men, each women have herown picture of the perfect guy. Women are different from each other, each onehave a special request for the perfect guy, even that her friends could beshocked from the description of her preferred man. So it is that the physicalappearance have a huge role in letting the guy get further in the relationshipwith the girl.
The man that they meet might have all requires for the perfectsoul mate, but the physical appearance stands in the way. Some girls prefer theguy tall, some others prefer the guy in their same height. Another critic as anexample the beard; some girls would not talk to a guy no matter how much is hisage if he does not have a beard. While others prefer that the guy would shavehis beard frequently. Stereotyping the ideal picture of the guy has taken over mostof the girls head. They tend to look for a fit man to show off in front oftheir friends and families.
Even more, girls might sometimes use boys for theirbodies. 2.2 Furthermore, what matters morethan the physical appearance to get the guy in a friend zone is his profession.It comes as a primer rule to get in a relationship with the girl, because whatis sure is that girls prefer man with a post and ability to work. Girls lookfor a longue bond and prefer to have a good future and a man with a lameprofession or no profession would not suit her, so they tend to keep this typeof guys in the friend zone. In addition, it is not only about the future, it ismainly about the show off in front of the family and friends that the man thatthey are talking to is capable to make her live as a princess and has his postin the society. Sometimes girls also look for the amount of money that the guyis able to spend on them or the gifts that he buys them for her.
They gotfooled up that a good relationship is based on money and appearance and if itis a guy that is suitable to go out with in public. 2.3 Girls are mostly known to wantattention, which is a normal thing for being a girl. Actually every human beingneeds attention, but sometimes girls go to the extreme to get the kind ofattention they want. To be more specific, girls tend to get friendly with a guyand let him think that he might have a chance to bet further with her, but heends up in the friend zone.
Why? If the guy likes the girl or even love her, hewill do his best to please her and make her happy, and girls love this kind ofattention. Sometimes it is a psychologicalthing, girls don’t get enough from attention, they will go to the end with theguy making him believe that there is something going on and suddenly she backsup, all in purpose of getting all the attention. Mostof the guys who keep on following the girl and begging her for a chance, arethe ones who end up as friends. 3.
0 Solutions to escape friend-zone: 3.1 In life, people haveto accept that sometimes their feelings for someone are one-sided andunreciprocated. A person should not easily give up on the things he trulydesire, but in certain situations giving up is the only solution. A man shouldnever beg a girl he likes for attention if she is not willing to give it, butrather he should respect her decision and treat her as a regular friend. Acareless attitude can be beneficial sometimes, as it tricks the girl intobelieving the man is not into her anymore, which triggers her ego and grabs herattention. In addition to that, accepting the friend-zone situation allows theperson to move on with his life, instead of focusing on a helpless situation.
Escapingthe friend-zone does not always mean a happy ending, but rather a maturedecision to escape a self and time consuming situation. Accepting that thefeelings and efforts given to a certain person are not mutual is the firstphase towards escaping the friend-zone and transforming the situation. 3.2 Focusing onself-development allows the person to grow and expand his abilities, until hereaches the best version of himself. Self-development is the key to high self-esteem and confidence,which helps the person overcome rejection and heartbreak, and makes him lookmore attractive to the opposite gender.
A friend-zoned person should use hissituation as a motivation to quit his bad habits and transform his weaknessinto strength. Furthermore, a friend-zoned man should work on improving himselfinstead of despairing. Self-improvement takes time and requires patience, butthe outcome of it on a person’s life and relationships is worth the effort.3.3 The more we spend time with a person, the more we get to knowhis personality and traits. It is necessary for people to spend time togetherfor them to get to know each other enough, and experiment if they can get alongand share the same interests. Attraction and love do not necessarily spark atfirst sight, but rather develop through time and companionship. Escaping thefriend-zone does not require great efforts and unique approaches, sometimes allit takes is showing interest and good manners while spending time togetherdoing normal things.
After the time spent together, the other person might findhimself interested and willing to break the friend-zone barriers. On theopposite side, the friend-zoned person might be the one changing his mind atthe end of the road, as he loses interest and attraction after the time spenttogether.3.4 On the other hand, the friend-zoned person should also hang outwith other people and have fun. Since things might not work out in the end, aperson has to keep himself surrounded by people who can help him overcome hissituation.
In addition to that, being surrounded by good friends means havingconstant support and good advices. Having feelings for someone becomesdetrimental if it turns into obsession, for that reason it is necessary to fillone’s time with fun activities and events. The friend-zoned person can alsoengage the girl he likes in his circle of friends, giving her a glimpse of thecheerful life he has, which she can be a part of if she decides to give him achance outside the friend-zone. A twinge of jealousy that comes from knowingother people find you attractive is the ultimate final move, being around othergirls is a powerful tool that should not be neglected.3.5 Even though sexual attraction is less significant of an issuefor women than for men, all human beings have certain needs. Sexual attractionis an important factor that can be triggered through flirting and sensualtricks.
The first basic step is teasing her and giving her compliments, whileavoiding elaborate and sophisticated ones. Touching her might help as well, aslong as it is done in a polite manner, such as touching her arm casually.Moderation is the best solution when it comes to flirting and teasing. Payingattention to her attitude and monitoring the changes determine the steps aperson should take next. 4. Conclusion:4.1 In conclusion, escaping the friend-zone is a complex and toughroad that might lead to a happy-ending or a painful heartbreak. The causes ofthe friend-zone range from physical appearance, male profession, to the girl’surge for attention.
Even though there are many effective solutions to escapethis situation, none of the solutions is guaranteed. 4.2 While the friend-zone is a nightmare for some people, it is anormal phase for others; which allows the couple to improve their knowledge ofeach other, and test their feelings before engaging in a serious relationship.